How do YOU TALK to yourself?

How do you talk to yourself?

You’ve heard the saying, “You are what you think” and how you talk to yourself is actually what will be.

But have you actually sat down and written what you actually think of yourself and HOW you talk to yourself?


The thing is, most of us actually talk ourselves DOWN by saying,

“I’m not good enough “or “My life is so crappy right now.”

I did my own little experiment from the time I woke up to the time I went to sleep and found myself saying things like:

“Who do you think you are writing a book?”

“What will people think?”

“You are nobody – why would people listen to you?”

“I feel so sick – I wish this virus would go away blah!”


“Whether you think you can or you can’t, either way you are right” – Henry Ford (1863-1947)

I came to understand more fully the power of WORD and THOUGHT by attending  Hay Houses’ ‘I Can Do It’ seminar last weekend (thank you Universe/God for letting me win this ticket). I was blown away and highly recommend it.

There were many speakers and I was struck with significant insights from each.


Robert Holden, author of Shift Happens spoke about your two self’s.

One self is your authentic self which is already perfect as you are, whilst your other self, ‘the ego’ is the self that will never be good enough, always procrastinates about going for your dreams, always criticises you and puts you down, etc…


The ‘ego’ is built up of thoughts and perceptions about yourself but it is NOT the real you.  


Your authentic self is ALREADY PERFECT because you are loved just as you are as you were created by God/the Universe/someone BIGGER than you who is also perfect.

You are taught by society, “Nobody’s perfect”, but guess what? You already are.

A key to talking kindly to your authentic self is actually learning to LOVE YOURSELF.

This can be the most challenging thing to do but you can’t change the world until you love yourself.  Sounds conceited? Well it isn’t.


Try this….look in the mirror and actually say “I love you (your name)”. It feels really strange at first but say it every day and it will become true. It’s actually okay to “have tickets on yourself”


I tried this during this week. Everyone knows my daughter has a strong independent personality so my husband and I have constantly tried to push our authority by raising our voices and being the ‘Super nanny’. The more we showed her who was boss, the less she listened.


Instead, this week I tried to love myself and be gentle on myself and found myself doing the same with Allegra. I have not raised my voice once this week and she has obeyed everything I have asked her. I have also reminded her constantly that I loved her. The kinder I have been to myself, the more loving I have been to my daughter and husband.


Louise Hay spoke about being gentle and kind to yourself and showed us how she even carried a little mirror in her bra (as well as peppermint tea). Wherever she went to look at herself in the mirror she would tell herself how she loved herself.

Another lesson learned from Cheryl Richardson that relates is that it is OK to GET A BIG HEAD!

In FACT, Cheryl once said she hoped her head would GROW SO BIG it would not fit through a door!  Society tells us not to grow to ‘Get a big head’, but guess what? You should GO FOR IT.


DO tell yourself, “I AM fabulous” “I am talented” “I am exceptional”.

In fact, take up this challenge:

  •  Write a list of everything you want to believe about yourself.
  • Recite it every day in front of a mirror for at least a month – what you will struggle to believe at first will become a reality.

“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”  – Marianne Williamson


WORDS and THOUGHTS about yourself are powerful beyond measure

Angel intuitive Doreen Virtue shared an incident whilst doing a recording. Her son stopped her and pointed out the sound waves on her computer when she said the word ‘angel’ looked like the wings of an angel.

She took this further and recorded a series of positive words and negative words.

She found all the positive words for example, love, joy, kindness had very large rounded shapes recorded on the graph whilst negative words such as murder, hate, despair appeared tight, sharp and constricted when recorded.

The same thing happened when she recorded a waitress who spoke about how she hated her job, her lack of customers and business going badly. The recordings also appeared constricted and tight on the graph. Doreen asked the same lady to start using positive words when describing her business and the graph recorded large rounded waves.

When she changed her words and thoughts, she then started attracting more business. Customers were feeling the negative vibrations in her coffee shop and were being repelled away. Once she started speaking positively she started attracting business.

She left us with this piece of advice: “Be very selective with the words you USE”


This led me to do some research on Dr Masaru Emoto’s famous experiments seeing the physical effect of thought and word over water.  If you haven’t heard of this, look it up, it is amazing


Emoto did a series of experiments where he thought positive/negative words over water, prayed over water, or taped written words over water. He froze the water and had photographers take a photo of the crystalline structures. The results were remarkable.


Emoto discovered that positive thoughts and words over water created crystalline structures that were perfect beautiful snowflakes whilst negative words and thoughts such as ‘Hitler’ or ‘You make me sick, I will kill you’ resembled disturbed mess with no structure.

If positive or negative thoughts and words can have this effect on water, on such a molecular level, how much more of an effect would it have on us and other people? Remember, we are made up of 60% water.

See Emoto’s experiments


So my final message – be aware of what you say or think about yourself and others. What you say and think is what will manifest on a cellular level. Be selective!

Cheryl Richardson said if you need to vent all the negative ‘stuff’ set a timer on your phone so you can get it all out within 2 minutes and move on.

Be aware of the effect of thoughts and words on others, especially your children and don’t argue in front of your kids. It is also transforming them on a physical level. Finally,be kind to your self and learn to LOVE who you are!


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