At the end of YOUR life, will you have any REGRETS?

At the end of YOUR life, will you have any REGRETS?

Catching up with girlfriends or friends you haven’t seen in a long time is always an ultimate treat.

Last week I did that very thing with an old time girlfriend for brunch. As we sat in the sun, overlooking the water, our discussion soon turned to our life goals:

What would we really love to do if money wasn’t an issue?

What would we pursue if we couldn’t fail?

What would we do if we didn’t have to worry if our partner or family approved or not?

 

 

We spoke about our dreams. For me it was starting up my coaching business and becoming a published author which I’ve started pursuing, whilst for her it was being her own boss and getting paid using her creative talents.
Then reality set in… ALL the obstacles why it couldn’t be done – the lack of money, the disapproval from people, etc…
It was then that I recalled a very powerful book called “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing” by Australian author Bronnie Ware.

I got to know more about this book when Bronnie Ware shared her life experience with us at a recent Hay House Writer’s workshop. I suggested it to my friend as it powerfully shifted the way I thought about my life and the way I lived.

Her story is amazing. After years of feeling unfulfilled with work she found herself working in palliative care. By tending to people in their last three to twelve weeks of their lives, her life transformed and she began writing about it in her blog ‘Inspiration and Chai’

This global success led to releasing a book and signed up a publishing deal the day her miracle baby was born.

 

Even if you don’t get to read the book, just reading the five most common regrets is life changing and I will summarise it here (you can read more by clicking on Bronnie Ware’s blog– each quote was sourced from http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html )

“1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. “

Bronnie wrote about how many people in their last moments realised there were so many dreams unfulfilled. It’s important to go for your dreams NOW whilst you still have health and vitality.

“2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.”

Bronnie wrote about how many regretted devoting all their time working instead of spending time with loved ones or seeing their children grow up.

“3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

With this point, Bronnie discussed the regret people had by holding what they really felt inside instead of sharing it therefore building up years of resentment or becoming ill. I also believe it could also apply to expressing appreciation and love to other people.

“4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

Bronnie wrote about the regrets people had with letting friendships go and not making more of an effort to stay connected.

“5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.”

Bronnie shared about the regrets people had of pretending to themselves and others out of fear of change at the cost of their own happiness.

 

After reading this I pictured myself near death have a conversation with me as I am in the present – a 35 year old Anna Garcia. What advice would I tell myself?

I immediately wrote a list. One of those things was not to be afraid to follow my dreams…

Once I did this I found myself having courage to try things I wouldn’t normally try – I didn’t want any regrets.

For example, I really wanted to enter a competition to win tickets to Marie Forleo’s RHH live in New York. However I missed the deadline.

The old me would have accepted that, but my dying self would have told me, “Submit it anyway despite it being past the deadline – do it for yourself! Be prepared to do what most people don’t want to do.”

So I submitted my video entry today knowing full well I wasn’t in the running. I did it just for the sake of overcoming my fear of creating videos. After submitting it, I read some comments on the site, “Even though it is passed the deadline, we look forward to seeing your video.” There was the chance someone could still see my video submission after all.

You only get one chance in life – you might as well live it to the full. You are still healthy and young

On the eve of your death what advice would you give yourself?

In your last moments how would you tell yourself to live in the present ?

What would you do differently?


Take action:

Write down a list of things you want to BE, DO or HAVE in your lifetime.
What are your dreams and goals?
What advice would you give yourself?
“Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.” – Bronnie Ware

 

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Do you have any questions? Contact me at anna@valuelifecoaching.com

 

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